Hypnotherapy, solutions You Need
Because problems only exist in the absence of a solution.
Whilst a solution is necessary to resolve any issue, it is the willingness to adopt and or embrace a solution, that ultimately sets us free. That said there is a vast difference between knowing the solution, and embracing it! The main reason being, that most problems or issues are subconsciously driven. The difference between what we want to achieve consciously and what we actually achieve subconsciously is a dichotomy that plagues many people.
Explaining that simplistically is not an easy task but, perhaps, could be said to be the result of the subjective nature of our two minds! What we refer to as the subconscious mind, is basically the processing of our brain that occurs outside of conscious awareness. The term, subconscious mind, is a convenient way to make sense of something that we know happens but have no actual sense of why, where or how it actually does. So, the notion of a hypothetical process that explains that just makes life more simple to understand. In essence, the driver of all our thoughts, feelings and behaviours is the brain itself. If we could ascribe a useful label to the idea of a subconscious mind, it would be that of the brains language. Perhaps one of the many things it does that is of the utmost importance, is its role in our survival (fight or flight). The conscious mind, on the other hand, is the part we are aware of and we (it) are far more concerned with the quality of our life (or from a fear perspective, the absence of that quality)? A problem can, therefore, be explained as the brain's subconscious desire to survive and the conscious desire to thrive! The result, if there is a mismatch, is an emotional state of conflict and emotional limbo. For the sake of convenience, I will continue to use the time honoured description of "subconscious mind," but, I am referring to processes that occur outside of conscious awareness and from within and across the brain itself!
Therapy is a process borne out of the client’s needs. This is foremost on my mind when I meet a client or answer any questions they may have prior to making an appointment... And please feel free to ask as many as you like!
The solution to any problem is, first and foremost, in the subconscious mind. The difficulty, however, is in translating that subconscious or emotional need into a workable and executable form of cognitive language. Essentially, a neural message that will not conflict with the subjective subconscious need is most desired. It is most often a past experience that is at the root of most emotional problems. But the longevity of the issue is usually a consequence of how our memories of that event express themselves. A major component of my therapy is in re-framing those memories; change the expression, change the experience!
The value of Therapy, or the therapist for that matter, cannot easily be judged from the outside. What a therapist charges may have no direct correlation to how effective, or ineffective, they are, and there is a very practical reason for that! Therapy is a subjective experience and each client experiences it in their own way. And of course, as a therapist, I have my own particular style and methodology; which may positively influence your experience!
Also, where they practice makes no specific difference either. Whether they work from home, an office or a medical centre makes no appreciable difference; other than the fees charged of course! The essence of choosing the right hypnotherapist is about their qualification's, experience and how comfortable you feel in their presence. Also, equally important, how much confidence they transfer to you and how confident you feel in their ability to assist you! With over 19 years and 18,000 hours of client experience; you really are in good hands!
It is my own personal experience of this process that makes me work the way I do and it is also why I offer a Free Consultation, it's free of any obligation too! Also, my service differs widely from other therapists I know of! It differs in that I am happy and confident to publish my fees on this website. And if you have any questions about my fees I will be pleased to explain them. So, that being the case, I have no need to discuss fees during the Consultation, at least not until required to by you. That means the Consultation is literally; all about YOU!
Sometimes the decision to seek therapy can be a difficult one for the client to make. Especially if they have anxiety about therapy in general or specifically as their issue. In a general sense being anxious about therapy is quite normal and if you have an anxiety disorder, it can be really useful to experience it at the session, as in, right there, in the room! Imagine trying to explain to a mechanic a problem that only happens when you turn left at 90kph?
Because the Consultation is specifically about you, we can discuss your Issue, how it is affecting you and how you feel that I can be part of the solution, and I am a solution-oriented person, and Therapy is a Solution Focused Modality, albeit one cannot or should not ignore the past, for it too can cast its hand!
I initially came to therapy as a client and have therefore done my own therapy! That can be an important factor as there can be complications if there are similarities in presenting issues or perceptions. This is often referred to as Transference and/or Countertransference. Having had some similar life experiences to that of many Clients also helps with empathy and compassion. This experience allows me to be impartial and nonjudgmental. Clients often have enough problems being judged by themselves and others, so the last thing they need is to feel judged by their therapist! I guarantee that will not happen in my therapy practice. During my own therapeutic journey, I worked with therapist’s who did and did not judge; so I am aware of what it can feel like to be judged!
The way I work is consensual throughout and I believe this is the right way to work. You see I want the client to make the right choice, for them! And I feel the best way you can do that is by meeting me and having a free and open discussion about your concerns. Then at the end of the Consultation, you are free to make some real choices; because there is no obligation to do anything other than say thank you; I will, or will not, continue to the next stage!
If you choose not to go any further, that is a good choice. Because there should not be any unnecessary doubt about the decision to enter therapy! I say unnecessary doubt, because it may be difficult to not have some doubt.
If you choose to go to the next stage, that is also a good choice. An appointment will be made for the first session. At the end of the first session, you can freely make the choice to move forward to a series of sessions. It is quite usual to have a number of sessions to effect a lasting solution.
Making the choice to continue has two options: 1) to proceed on a session by session basis (with the next session paid in advance), or 2) to book and pay for a set of 4 sessions and receive a 5th session free of charge.* This equals a 20% discount and therefore lightens the financial burden. It also helps you make a commitment towards your own future!
Why 4 (5) sessions when most other Therapists seem to be recommending 6, 8 or 10?
Well, that’s because I find 5 sessions to be about the right amount for most clients I have worked with. However, some clients need more and others less. So, you really have nothing to lose..... except your problem
Sometimes Clients have multiple issues and in this circumstance, I recommend working on these one at a time. However, I discuss with the Client which they feel most appropriate to start with. Although, as a general rule, I usually suggest dealing with stress or anxiety related issues first. For the most part, this will help to get the client into a better place; physically and emotionally. And sometimes some of the other peripheral issues can dissipate or even disappear when stress or anxiety is greatly lessened.
It also has the effect of making life seem less of a struggle; which is always a good thing!
So, I hope this has helped you understand more about how I work and why My Therapy; is All About YOU?
* Therapy quoted refers to Trans4mational Therapy.