Do you have anxiety? Of course, you do, we all do!
But is yours out of sync with the norm? While anxiety is a normal part of everyday life, it can go off the rails at times and when it happens too frequently, for too long and to a greater intensity than ever before, then it's time to get it checked out because you may now have an anxiety disorder! Some professional healthcare experts suggest that 10% of the general population, in Singapore, have an anxiety disorder, an alarming figure! However, I believe the true figure is much higher because, so many people who have it, never seek treatment, a silent minority perhaps but still a very significant one.
Employment matters appear to be a significant factor in a lot of the anxiety disorders that I treat here in Singapore, e.g. workplace bullying, unfair dismissal (in comparison to UK and EU employment law), a general lack of employee protection, and abuse of powers, all these things play a role. For example, it is not unheard of for an employer to withhold payment when an employee leaves. Some firms have been known to reduce remuneration at a certain age or significantly alter the terms of their employee's contract. All of these things can, and often do, add significant stress and the uncertainty of it all can develop into an anxiety disorder.
Then there is relationship anxiety, many people are in dysfunctional or toxic relationships and while ending the relationship could be one option, it is not always as easy as that, often it is not a workable or practical solution either. For some relationships, it's really not possible or practical to end them. For example, how do you end a parental relationship or one with your children? While it is practically possible, it rarely comes without consequences, mostly an emotional one. Severing ties with a sibling seems to be the most common form of family break up but even that can have consequences at times. Or, you have a great friend, you've known them your whole life, you're inseparable, then one day someone enters their life and it's downhill from there, you just don't gel with the new man or woman in their life and no matter how much you dislike their partner, it leaves emotional scars!
Of course, there are other factors that also contribute to an anxiety issue, if a parent or a close family member has anxiety, it increases your risk factor. The way your brain encodes the experience during the early years of your life can also be a factor. And while brains are anatomically similar, the similarity ends there because it is the unique way that each of us encodes experience and translates that into a neural code (brain language), that goes on to predict the way the brain/mind respond to sensory stimuli. To complicate matters further, much of our sensory experience is coded into memories and a memory of one experience, with similar or specific attributes of something similar, or not, can be conditioned to trigger the memory of another experience, a process known as classical conditioning and/or Hebbian plasticity
Much of our life experience, be it in childhood or later on, goes on to predict our character or personality. If we have a plethora of negative experience, this can shatter our confidence, lower or destroy self-esteem or self-worth and onwards from that, our confidence tanks. In short, over a very short, or even a very long period of time, we can go from the top of the mountain into the deepest valleys.
It's at times like these, that a good therapist can help you to get back on track and I have been helping people with anxiety and related issues, like stress, depression and confidence, for many years now. So, if you are suffering from a seemingly unending amount of anxiety and, you want it to stop, then please contact me to make an appointment for a free consultation. During the consultation, we will discuss the issue and what you would like life to be like after the therapy. After that, we can look at the treatment options available to you and from there begin the journey of recovery and discovery. Recovery gets you back on track, discovery allows you to see, and feel, your potential and how far you can go towards developing that.
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