The essence of everything important in life initially stems from morality! Morality evolves out us following a certain pattern of prohibition. Basically there are a lot of bad things you shouldn't do and then, if you can adhere to that pathway, you are good enough! This is how we start with raising children, we place a series of prohibitions on their behaviours. Basically, if those errant behaviours were to manifest, it would make their life really miserable! As an adult, we have to understand how we got from where we started, to where we are right now! Then, we have to understand in what ways we contributed to where we now find ourselves? Just look around you, look in your direct sphere of influence, look at the things that you can fix. Then start to fix the things that are in need of repair but start small and build up from there. But where to start? Well, start in the places where you spend a lot of your time. For example, your room, the office desk, then work towards tidying up your mind. Essentially, that's the place where it all, slowly, begins to change. From there, begin to develop your values, morals, principals. Meaning, define who you are, what you stand for, and, more importantly, what you will not! From this position, your ethics become shaped, honed and polished and your life's purpose and meaning become very real; tangible!
As a therapist, I learned this principle over many years. I discovered, that in order to help clients get their life together, it was imperative that I first achieve this for myself. I found ethical values and sound morals to be of the utmost importance, especially when working with other people. Because these people place their trust in you! It is, precisely this, that makes an ethical practice of paramount importance, even more so in the world of therapeutic intervention. As my practice evolved, my ethics morphed into the cornerstone of my approach to clinical hypnotherapy. Of course, having a desire to help others, means reaching higher levels of cognitive acuity. As such, it was imperative that my own levels of cognitive acuity must align with my life's principles. And because of that, my life's vision and mission statements really must be on the same page. In order to walk the talk; I have to be the talk! To that end, my life's philosophy is, "say what you mean, mean what you say!" So, as a therapist, I must align myself, mentally and spiritually with my clients' needs and desires. Because that is the birthplace of empathy and compassion To view the Code of Ethics I conform to, please click here:
My life's philosophy was born out of personal experience! When I was younger, I was at the mercy of everything that opposed my current mindset; i.e. "Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say!" Essentially, you can choose to swim against the forces of life, nature and the universe. But in doing so, you will never appreciate how easy life can be until you turn around and swim with life! This does not mean we acquiesce or give up, it just means we discover how to make life less complicated!, Do I always say what I mean and mean what I say? Well, while it is always my intention, occasionally I falter but never on purpose. However, every time I do not achieve my philosophy becomes an opportunity to learn and move forward. That said, saying what I mean and meaning what I say, is my guiding principle and I do achieve it much more often than not! In that sense, it is an ever-evolving principle and one day, not too far away, I will achieve that. But for the moment I am a work in progress; getting better one day at a time!
I see my mission as the reaching of a predetermined set of objectives; the natural consequence of clarity of mind and or purpose! The pursuit of understanding and appreciating the needs and wants of each client and set in motion a course of action towards reaching that end.
So, I promise you, The Client, a total commitment of my time, my experience and my full care and concern for your welfare whilst in my charge. The basic tenets of my therapy and life are:
In addition to all that I promise you, I promise myself the time to enjoy my family, my work and my life. Basically, if I can't deliver the pursuit of success, happiness and true inner love for myself. Then how can I feel congruent to do the same for you?
Very few of us are born with perfect circumstance. Therefore it is our duty to pursue those attributes that define true success and happiness in our life. Thus, when we look back, from where we started, to where we end up, we can hopefully, understand the growth and fulfilment of our ambitions, achievements and successes? A life of meaning evolves out of the pursuit of a higher calling in our spiritual progression!