In a clinical sense, hypnosis is the medium from which a therapeutic intervention (hypnotherapy) takes place;
But what happens next?
When one thinks of hypnosis their mind can be taken in two directions. Firstly, stage hypnosis, where one engages in hypnosis for the purpose of entertainment; a laugh and giggle, so to speak. Secondly, and more seriously, as a method of delivering a therapeutic intervention. Naturally, this site and this article will focus on the second of those two directions!
So if you are thinking of seeking help for a life issue, it is likely that you may have a few questions? One of the questions you may ask is, “what can I expect from therapy?" That may sound like a question that is easy to answer but experience has taught me differently. Mostly this is because clients focus more on what they don’t want than what they do, but let me explain. Let’s say you have a debilitating anxiety disorder and you are asked, “what do you want?” The most usual answer is something like, "I don’t want to be anxious any more!" That sounds both logical and reasonable, doesn’t it? Well, the absence of anxiety is not what you want, it’s what you don’t want. The evidence for that is in the answer itself “I don’t want to be anxious!” So, if anxiety is what you don’t want, then what do you actually want? Obviously, it is the opposite of anxiety and that is found in peace, calm and relaxation. Essentially the resplendent state of inner peace experienced on the ocean of tranquillity! However, there is a secondary anomaly with, “I don’t want to be anxious any more". This is because anxiety is a natural human experience, i.e. the presence of the fear response (fight or flight). In the everyday course of life, you may just need a little of that anxiety one day? So, the idea we can live without it is both absurd and, potentially, dangerous! As is someone suggesting or promising to give you a stress-free life! Adversity is the teacher; life is the classroom!
Another response to the "what do you want" question, is, “I want happiness.” That’s great I say but how would you define happiness? At this point there is most often a long pause and very seldom is there a definitive answer! The problem is in the pause because the brain will seldom afford us the luxury of time to think! If you don't know what happiness is, it will attempt to provide it for you. That may be a new pair of shoes, a wallet, trousers or a new handbag etc. On occasion, it does this in very extreme and bizarre ways! My theory, is if you can't define what you want, in simple, clear, unambiguous terms; how can your brain help you achieve it? It is the vagueness and ambiguity that creates the disclarity of our life's purpose. This can, and often does, result in psychological or mental imbalance; aka a problem! If you've ever considered goal setting, you'll know it centres on ta clarity of mind, purpose and action. A common acronym for goal setting is SMART: Specific - Measurable - Attainable - Realistic - Timed. The reality, at least in terms of my experience, is that clarity applies to many more aspects of life than goal setting. Hypnotherapy helps you create that clarity of mind! As a consequence, you become SMART about life and living!
However, I am not saying this is easy but that doesn't mean it's hard either! Because knowing what you really want can be complicated or maybe confusing? The reasons for this are discovered in the way your life has represented itself within your brain. From the day we are born we are exposed to this vague and ambiguous anomaly of life! It starts with parents, teachers and other people of influence in our life. These are not bad people, they love us, care for us, want the best for us. So what's going on here then? Well, remember what happens when I ask a client what they want, mostly they don't know? Where do you think they get this linguistic aberration from? They end up thinking they know what they want but state it in the opposite. This is often predicated on false, erroneous, vague or ambiguous interpretations of sensory stimuli. Sensory stimuli come from the external/internal environment and are dependent on how the brain then interprets that into our experience. But it also comes in the form of memories based on what we saw, heard, felt, smelt or tasted. Memories are merely algorithmic short cuts, time-saving functions that work on stored elements of previous experience! In that sense, much of our life is a replay of stored memories. However, the brain also knows how to use past experience to interpret similar or novel experience. This is the essence of both learning and problem-solving! This is not uniquely human either, because animals also display these abilities.
Many of the issues we face as adults are, in some way, related to those earliest moments of our life. As nascent beings, we have an immature and undeveloped brain. Nevertheless, it has to make sense of the world it lives in and does so in a rather arbitrary and illogical way. This is because the logical processes of cognition, reasoning and analysis have not developed in the early years of life, As such, it is not uncommon for our brain to make illogical and irrational choices or decisions? But hey, we’re kids, so that’s OK, isn’t it? Well in most cases it is but in others, it is seemingly not OK? Children, at least Christian children, mostly believe in Santa Claus and some, even the tooth fairy (remember what I said earlier, about “false, erroneous” info)? I am not aware of any adult issue/trauma relating to a seemingly innocuous childhood experience. Therefore, discovering that Santa and the tooth fairy are not real people is not a life destabilising experience? But what about a person with a spider phobia? Every client that I helped with a spider phobia said, unilaterally, “it’s ridiculous, I know they won’t hurt me!” Some even quote their intelligence as a reason why they should not be afraid! But their cognitive, intellectual systems of logic, reasoning, critical thinking etc. didn't create the fear; it’s their emotional system! The emotional system is pretty simple, albeit, in an incredibly complicated way. It works on a shoot first, ask questions later basis. We, on the other hand, just love to ask questions. When we respond in an overwhelmingly emotional way, that clearly doesn’t make sense, essentially we are thrown off-kilter. Despite knowing a spider won’t hurt them they totally freak out at the sight or mere mention of one! Strangely, even in countries where spiders do represent a danger, spider phobias are relatively rare!
The reason I go into so much detail about spiders is quite fundamental. It's because similar, mental or emotional processes are at play for many of the malaise that humans suffer from. Sometimes this can actually start in the womb before we are born. For example, we know the foetus experiences its mother's emotions, it hears the sounds of the world outside. When the spider phobic mother has a phobic response during the pregnancy, the baby feels the emotion and hears the screams, panic etc. However, it has no context. After birth, the mother has another phobic attack, the baby now observes this but doesn’t directly feel the mothers emotions. Intrinsically, babies have a tendency to get stressed when they see their mother in distress. At this stage, both mother and baby are in the fight or flight (the same or at least very similar to the in vivo experience). Now the baby has the inkling of an issue but still has no context. Somewhere along the line, the infant discovers the object of this abject terror is a spider, and the phobia arises! This is now locked in emotional memory (mostly implicit, nondeclarative memory) and is thus, beyond reasoning, logic, analysis and/or intelligence. They can know logically, reasonably and analytically the spider won’t harm them; they just don’t know it emotionally!
Many of the other issues we face can be similar in nature. For example, you are the eldest of three children, say 4 years between you and the next and 7 to the youngest. For 4 years you are the apple of your parent's eye, you have them all to yourself, then along comes this sibling. You are obviously too young to appreciate the complexity of this new relationship. As such you will neither know, nor care, about how useless this new addition is or why your parent’s attention is now fixated on this new arrival. But, relative to your perceptions about how little time you are receiving, compared to the new arrival, your brain will make decisions! Of course, now with 4 years experience as parents, they'll likely be more confident, maybe a little less paranoid about everything the new arrival does. This can be translated by you as, different treatment and by the time your next sibling arrives a whole lot of stuff can happen. This can be more complicated for you because many of your core logical and analytical processes are now coming on board. Nevertheless, your brain is young, immature and does not function the way an adult brain does. Your parent’s, on the other hand, may find it difficult to function at your level and will mostly use their logic to figure out your illogic. For the most part, this all turns out quite well; let’s call it the Santa Claus theory of parenting! However, many parents face their own emotional hangovers from their own childhood experiences (the Non-Santa Claus theory). Consequently, this can affect both their own, yours, even the entire family's mental stability. Do you know any families like that?
As another example. Let’s say your father felt neglected and unloved as a child, a consequence perhaps, of his younger brother/sister getting more, and, perceptively, better treatment than him? As such, rejection (the apparent absence of the chemical correlates of love) can play a critical role in his feelings of love and safety. Your mother, through mother/infant bonding (an effect of oxytocin/vasopressin), becomes more focused on you or the new arrival. The father believes the new arrival is the focus of all her love and attention. Consequently, he now, usually subconsciously, activates latent childhood emotional memories, perhaps relating to jealousy, lack of love, neglect, rejection etc. and abnormal behaviour develops. It is unlikely that this will be the first time such behaviour has been experienced by him. The degree to which it manifested, developmentally, is the degree to which his now/then cognitive processing can distort or corrupt those childhood memories? As we experience sensory stimuli that activate latent childhood memories, the memories go through a process of recall and reconsolidation as we sleep. The newly reconsolidated memories, having been updated, maybe distorted or corrupted, can mean future recall is no longer that childhood memory? Instead, it is the recall of an adult reconsolidated version of a childhood memory! In that context, we now talk about that memory using adult language, logic and reasoning. The potential problem, is, that we can be unaware of that nonconscious process and still think of it as being the recall of a childhood memory. Hopefully, it is now somewhat easier for you to extrapolate these processes outwards to many of the issues you may be facing?
Getting back to the original question, what can you expect from hypnosis? It is the desire that the process of therapy, brings about a better understanding of how problems can manifest. And why, if only sometimes, visiting the past can be of importance in discovering how your young brain converted a childhood experience into an adult problem?
The process of learning, when young, influences the way our brain develops. If there are numerous highly, negative/positive emotional aspects to our experience, they have the potential for drastic emotional responses to seemingly nonemotional events. As adults, this can result in conflictual relationships as well as moral and ethical dysfunctionality. Hence why people's reactions to novel experience can occasionally seem so out of place or context!
So, when preparing for therapy it can be useful to be open-minded and willing to explore the realms of your deeper brain/mind. And, perhaps, guided to do this in ways you have never experienced before? There is also a possibility of discovering that life may not be the way you perceive it to be, at least from the inside out? That, fortunately, is the abstract nature of therapy! Hypnotherapy has the added potential to change the way your brain processes information. Information that may have been erroneously encoded when you were much younger. That said, it may not have been so erroneous back then because the brain that encoded it was undeveloped, immature and lacked intellectual capacity. These capacities are gradually acquired over the course of the developmental stages of your life. As mentioned, Santa Claus and tooth fairy's are mild examples, of beliefs that harmlessly evolve during childhood and safely transmute into adult fantasy. Spider phobias are examples that do not. So, in preparation for therapy, be prepared to be Trans4ormed with hypnotherapy! Because what you know logically and intellectually, may just not be what you know emotionally!
Trance-formation is available right here in Singapore by Thom Bush, your resident, the UK trained, Clinical Hypnotherapist and Certified Hypnotist!
Note: The laws of attraction and abundance mostly exist, for us, in the presence of clarity of mind and purpose and the more clear that is, the better. When your mental understanding correlates with your articulation of that which you want, you have a purpose and you have clarity. It is from within this perspective, internal and external, that synchronicity occurs. synchronicity is the meeting of mind with the forces of the universe. When mind meets the universal elements of life; then you are living!
So, to answer the original question, "what can you expect from therapy" the answer; whatever you want!
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