A picture is worth a thousand words or so they say! So, assuming that is true, what is the value of a true friend? But what is a true friend and how do you define one, do you even do that? Maybe categorising them can help, class A, B, C and U (unclassified) can help. Otherwise, how do we differentiate one type from the other? Like it or not, there are differences in what we get from (or add to), friends and you fail to recognise that, at your peril . . . .
While the internet and social media have the potential for a greater good, it is, without a doubt, one of the most prolific sources of human wickedness and can lead to a false sense of social bonding. If one were to use it in the vein of how we used to send our friends and family a postcard while we were away on holiday, I can see some real old fashioned values. Humour for a moment please because I am approaching 70 in a few months, so, these old fashioned values seem to gather more value day by day. But do we need to be sending what is tantamount to a postcard every day or so? Well, according to this research, no, we do not and in fact, it may end up costing us more than we are prepared to pay, if only in terms of our mental health!
Which brings me to a discussion I had with a client recently, regarding Maslow's hierarchy of needs. The esteem needs can usefully be classified as, lower self-esteem and higher self-esteem (with the lower form, not equating to low self-esteem). In the lower form, as long as we are receiving the well done', good job, glad to have you on the team, approval, acceptance and validation etc. we are in a good place. However, if we do not get that, then the esteem drops, it may even disappear totally for a while. You begin to introspect, find fault with yourself; what did you do to lose that validation, acceptance, approval etc? However, with the higher form, as nice as the pat on the back is, you just don't need it. You also are aware, that no matter how good your actions were, you can always find ways to improve. You are also aware of when your behaviour or performance fell short of your mark and that inspires you to get back on track. Just because you made a mistake or fell short of your own standards, these moments inspire you to make the necessary changes and keep moving forward; towards self-actualisation!
The point of the discussion developed when it was stated that "we need social connections, contacts and networks" etc. to which I disagreed. My reason for doing so was this, when one is self-actualised, they will have these contacts, connections and networks but they do not need them. How we get there is by finding peace of mind, to accept one's self, having first found one's true self and, letting go of ego. Within each of us, is the ability to become the epitome of our own self, hypnotherapy can help you discover who you really are; the real you that is! From the day we are born, our life is guided in certain directions, by our parents and family, the culture we are a part of and the society we live in. However, as each culture and society developed, there was a desire to improve and this, through discoveries by science and social experience, we discover that some of the things that shaped our life, were in fact based on falsehoods or invalid and often erroneous information. Hypnotherapy can help you access deeper parts of your brain's immense power, from within, where you can access untapped resources that relate to your true and natural self. In this sense, it gives you a retrospective ability to go back and start again, akin to that, "if I had my time all over again," I'd . . . Of course, you can't change the past but you can change its perspective and that, in and of itself, can change everything going forward!
Behind your own Face-is a-book of true knowledge and a deeper self that the potential of real social attributes that lead you towards a better life! Hypnotherapy will help you be more calm, more relaxed and to find peace from within your true self.
Hypnotherapy stands out as one of the most effective strategic life management methods there is, especially in its ability to promote clear thinking and good states of mental wellness. The behaviours that make life challenging are often a result of too much stress, too little sleep and too little by way of clarity! So, to get or take back control of your mind and your life, it makes perfect sense to use a methodology that addresses the subconscious mind's role in perpetuating negative, vague and ambiguous states of mind. Hypnosis helps us to create calm relaxing states of mind that make life work better! If you would like to address any concerns you have in this direction, or, if you just want to make your life feel better, then why not make an appointment for a Free Consultation? Hypnosis gives you the ability to have a good life!
The objective here is to help people understand how and why we become illogically trapped into irrational emotional experiences that may actually be happening for reasons different to that which we would imagine! If you want to know more about how Hypnotherapy can help you; why not make an appointment for a Free Consultation?
Friends on social media such as Facebook can be a great source of comfort during periods of stress. However, if they don't receive any support offline, stressed users are at risk of developing a pathological dependence on the social networking site -- the so-called Facebook addiction. This is the result of a study conducted by a team of the Mental Health Research and Treatment Center at Ruhr-Universität Bochum (RUB), headed by Dr Julia Brailovskaia. The group has published its findings in the journal Psychiatric Research on 13 May 2019.
Students under stress
For their study, the researchers evaluated the results from an online survey that had been taken by 309 Facebook users between the ages of 18 and 56. "We have specifically invited students to participate in the survey, as they often experience a high level of stress for a number of reasons," explains Julia Brailovskaia. Students are often put under pressure to succeed. Moreover, many leave their family home and the social network there; they have to run a household for the first time, are busy building new relationships.
The researchers' questions helped deduce the stress level, as well as how much social support the participants received offline and online. Moreover, the users were asked how much time they spend on Facebook daily and how they feel if they can't be online.
The higher the stress level, the deeper the engagement with Facebook
"Our findings have shown that there is a positive relationship between the severity of daily stress, the intensity of Facebook engagement, and the tendency to develop a pathological addiction to the social networking site," concludes Julia Brailovskaia. At the same time, this effect is reduced if users receive support from family and friends in real life. Individuals who don't experience much support offline are most at risk of developing a Facebook addition.
A vicious circle
Addiction symptoms include, for example, users spend more and more time on Facebook, are preoccupied with Facebook all the time and feel uneasy when they can't engage with the network online. The pathological behaviour, in turn, affects their life offline and may trap them in a vicious circle. "This aspect has to be taken into consideration when treating a person with a pathological addition -- or suspected pathological addition -- to Facebook," says the psychologist.
- Julia Brailovskaia, Elke Rohmann, Hans-Werner Bierhoff, Holger Schillack, Jürgen Margraf. The relationship between daily stress, social support and Facebook Addiction Disorder. Psychiatry Research, 2019; 276: 167 DOI: 10.1016/j.psychres.2019.05.014
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