Creating Calmness - Promoting Ideas - Forging Life
Sometimes making the decision to seek help for a mental, emotional or psychological problem they are experiencing, can be very challenging but having overcome that obstacle,, the next challenge might be, what type of help do they need and who can they choose to drive the change they are looking for? In an effort to make that choice less agonising and, hopefully, easier to decide, I offer a Free 1-hour Consultation, which includes a trial hypnosis session (with your consent of course). Most things work better when we are agreeable and willing and hypnosis is no exception. What makes each therapist different is a melody of training, therapeutic and life experience but most importantly empathy and compassion. It would be rather facile for me to make a comment about myself (The Best #1 etc.), if only because of a natural bias one may have toward a service they provide. To that end, I feel the best people to demonstrate how I score on the above attributes, are my past clients. You can read what they say here
The driving objective of my hypnotherapy practise is to help clients who have an area of life that just isn't working the way they'd like it to. For example, their career, social life, relationships, finances or even their personal life. In essence, the overall quality of life is determined by our conscious awareness of it, be it from a day to day awareness or a big-picture perspective, i.e. how we see the future panning out? Based on this awareness (usually without conscious awareness) we mentally speculate our forward projection of life. Essentially we subconsciously rationalize the subjective interpretations of our life. However, there is an unawareness of what is driving those feelings and for the most part, it is a memory. Memories are the key to life, be it misery and failure or happiness and success! From the moment we are born to the moment we die we are, to some extent, living life as a re-enactment of memory. And although we are also learning new things, creating new memories; it is without a doubt that past memories will play some role in the formation and quality of all new learning.
I like to think of things relating to memory simplistically, as in what kind of stimulus is at work. I use a three-state philosophy, hypo - neutral - hyper.
1. Hypo-memory: is when we are experiencing negative (low) emotions. When we experience this, life doesn't feel too good and sometimes for no apparent reason; but there will always be a reason! In every negative experience, you have had, all of your senses were engaged. So, just going to or being somewhere where that looks, sounds, smells, tastes or feels like one of those negative experiences, is enough to arouse the memory and the emotion. Memories are held in code within our brain and each has the power to initiate the emotions that were felt during the initial experience, and repetition can increase the intensity and duration of each re-occurrence!
2. Neutral-memory: are those memories that seemingly have very little or no emotional content, e.g. you may remember a meeting but have no emotional response to it. If asked to imagine your front door and then asked what side is the lock, which you will remember, but it is unlikely to arouse any emotion.
3. Hyper-memory, this is the upside of life, the fun, joy and happiness of being alive. When you experience these memories it feels good and so do you. The anticipation of being with someone that you like and enjoy brings about a plethora of positive memories, feelings and emotions about past experiences and past experience is a potential predictor of future experience.
In my practice, I use my training and experience to bring about the outcome you want. It is not always necessary for you to fully experience a painful past, merely gain an understanding of how that plays out in memory. And as much as it may seem to be, memory is not as reliable as we may think. And that is a real benefit to you because memories can be changed (reconsolidated). Not changed in the sense that they didn’t happen or by creating a totally false outcome. But rather by reframing the memory, by experiencing a memory differently it will allow you to express the memory differently, that difference is now experienced as more productive emotionally. Essentially all that ever changes as a result of a therapeutic intervention, is perspective. And that is mostly all that is needed. In a very simple and pragmatic sense, that means, change the memory, change the response!
Ultimately the real place where therapy occurs is in the minds of the client and therapist. Whilst it is, without a doubt, the client that does the work; the therapist, nevertheless, plays the role of a therapeutic mentor. The relationship that develops between you and me engenders hope and belief towards achieving your goals within the safety of my hypnotherapy practice.
My Free Consultation, therefore, aims to allow You to make the therapeutic choice as to how I can help you; free of any obligation!