For anyone who has never experienced any type of brain/mind-based therapy, making the appointment to go is one thing, actually going is something else altogether! It can be a very daunting prospect indeed and I truly recognise the challenge you may be facing. Occasionally a client won't show up for the session and although there can be many reasons for that, it is not at all uncommon that it is because they are experiencing a lot of anxiety. This can happen to anyone, even if the reason for going to seek therapy has nothing to do with anxiety.
However, if the reason for therapy in the first place, is to deal with anxiety, then the prevalence of this pre-session anxiety can be very overwhelming and the desire to escape this feeling often takes precedence and leads to cancelling the session. Sometimes they are so paralysed by anxiety, that the very thought of phoning, or messaging, to say they cannot come, creates even more anxiety!
So, what should you do about it? Well, firstly, just let me know if you can; after all, if you can't come, you can't come! However, it may just be the case that I can help alleviate the anxiety you are feeling and we can see if that helps. If that works, it works, if it doesn't; it doesn't!
Now, will I be angry if you cannot turn up? Not at all. I actually enjoy life when I'm busy but equally, I also enjoy it when I'm not. That is not to say that it doesn't matter if you turn up, of course, it does. It matters because if therapy can help you, then obviously you have to be part of the process and the sooner you can start, the sooner you may be emotionally well again! One of the things that we really need to learn to distinguish in life is this, we need to know the difference between a problem and an inconvenience. You not turning up for an appointment, is definitely not a problem, although depending on the circumstances, it may be an inconvenience; C'est la Vie - such is life! It is important in life, as well as in therapy, to understand the difference between a problem and an inconvenience because all too often we tend to create a problem over something that is really only an inconvenience. And one of the primary aims of therapy is to correct that type of thought and/or behavioural experience! It is also worth saying, that it really doesn't happen that often, so it is both proper and easier to keep things in the proper perspective relevant to problems!
The simple truth is, that people who come to see me are usually experiencing some kind of a challenge in their life and that usually comes with a small, or large, measure of anxiety. So, in that sense, anxiety is quite usual and it may even be helpful in the hypnotherapy session too! I am very used to working with each client's individual experience of anxiety and since the purpose of therapy is, in one way or another, to help clients deal with everyday life; its presence can be truly useful!
So, if you have anxiety, please come with it, it may actually help? But if it is so overwhelming then just reschedule the appointment and I can most likely help you to feel confident to come and see me, to that end, I would suggest we have a chat about it because sometimes history repeats itself!