Whether thoughts are negative or positive doesn’t really matter; they both influence behaviour and the more they do it the stronger the habit.
Some, if not most, behaviours are conditioned from birth and throughout our life, e.g. the things we are told by parents, teachers, peers, authority figures, even friends. This conditioning ultimately forms our belief system and the more attached or connected we are to those beliefs serves only to enhance them!
From the day we are born we unwittingly join a worldwide community; one that is predominantly influenced by the beliefs of people we respect or fear. Be they advocates of religion or the rule of law; both set out to condition our behaviour. Religion, for the most part, uses fear; if you sin you will pay for the transgression in the afterlife. The rule of law is no different; except your punishment is in this lifetime!
It seems that as we acquire language, over time, we somehow learn to adopt a subconscious mode of self-talk that is very often steeped in negative undertones. In my many years of experience as a clinical hypnotherapist, I have never had a client presenting with anxiety, stress or confidence/self-esteem issues, whose self-talk was predominantly positive. It seems that anxiety and negative self-talk go hand in hand; just like strawberries and cream or honey and lemon!
Because cognition and emotion are inextricably linked, one mode of subconscious language (negative or positive) influences the other. Negative emotions create negative thoughts and feelings and vice versa. Once you’ve got stinking thinking, you’ve generally got a negative perception of yourself and a life experience to match.
In my therapy, I pay careful attention to your everyday language, the words, tone and inflexion. This is one reason my sessions are longer than most, I then introduce an awareness of the negative influences in your spoken language and this continues holistically into the therapeutic interventions. Having a good level of conscious awareness about your verbal and non-verbal negative self-talk, simply means you now have the drivers of correctional neural input deeply at work within your subconscious mind; the seat of mindful living!
Additionally, I teach easy to learn strategies that make life a joy, you will wake up in the morning; wanting to get out of bed. Because once you are up you are in charge. You cannot control what others say or do, but you can influence it, your true strength lays in the way you choose to respond.
Life is about choices, the better you are at managing life; the more choices you get to make!